Ask these questions to determine if abandonment is happening in small ways:
Do they refuse to pick you up or drive you places?
Are they on time to pick you up?
Do they feel your time is less important than theirs?
Do they ask you about your earlier life?
Do they remember facts about your life?
Do they do things for you they committed to?
Do you need to frequently remind them of these?
When you say you have had a rough day, do they ask about it?
When you are sick, do they take care of you?
Do they remember how you take your coffee?
When there has been a death, do they bring you food or provide other support?
Do they ask favours, but never return them?
Do they borrow things and not return them?
Do they forget plans you make?
Are they there only in the good times?
Do they have a hard time fitting you into their schedule?
Do they talk about you behind your back?
Do you do all the pursuing?
Do they remember your birthday and other special days?
Are they critical of your looks or lifestyle choices?
Are they there for their friends and family?
Are they there for your family and friends?
Do they think your hobbies and interests are stupid?
After a hard day, do they know what to say and do to make you feel better?
Do you feel neglected?
Do you always do what they want to do?
Do you feel you are not being told what is going on in their life?
Do you feel you are not really listened to?
Do they never stop talking about themself?
Do you feel lifted up when you are down?
Are they available to listen when you need to talk?
Do they avoid you or get silent when you are fighting?
Does your partner express their love to you, either in words or deeds?
Do they make your life easier?
When they see you are busy, do they sit and watch TV and not offer assistance?
Do they have a string of unfulfilled promises?
Do they leave projects half done?
Do they hop from job to job?
Do their family and friends receive information before you?
Do you feel alone even when you are together?
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