Ask yourself these questions to assess if you are in this relationship for the wrong reasons:
Why do I want to marry? Is it a goal in and of itself? Is this a need?
What do I hope to get out of it?
Does your religion push the idea of marriage?
Is marriage just what grown-ups do? Does marriage make you feel grown-up?
Are you marrying to escape your home life?
Do you want to marry and have kids to relieve pressure to pursue higher education?
Who is pressuring me to marry?
Do I feel like it is important to marry by a certain age?
Do you feel you need to marry to keep up with others?
Is your biological clock ringing loudly?
Are all your friends part of a couple and you feel like a third wheel?
Does marrying right now fit in with your dreams for the future?
Do you or your partner want to wait for marriage to have sex? Do you feel sex is wrong outside of marriage? Do you equate sex with love?
Do you feel this person is your only option?
Do you think life will be a Norman Rockwell painting once you marry?
Has your partner issued an ultimatum?
Do you feel too old to start over?
Do you need someone to help pay the bills?
Do you not want to work?
Are you struggling to take care of yourself?
Is it expected that you marry someone of a certain race or faith?
Do only the people with families get promoted in your company?
Do you feel you need a helper to do all the things required in your life?
Do you not want to live on your own?
Does growing up scare you?
Are you in love with love?
Is it better to be with literally anyone than alone?
Do you believe if you aren’t married, are you a loser?
Overall, do you feel lonely?
Do you think marriage will automatically make you happy?
Do you think your partner will compensate for the areas in yourself you think are lacking?
Do you hate going to events alone?
Do you jump from relationship to relationship?
Do you feel empty?
Does this person have the things you want (money, status, etc.)?
Do you feel it is just the right thing to do?
Do you think marriage will give you a reason to change bad behaviours (i.e. addiction)?
Do you think it will help you get ahead in your career?
Do you feel it will get you respect of the community?
Do you not want to do woman’s work?
Are you in this relationship to get over someone else?
Will marriage prove your sexual orientation?
Are you trying to save someone?
Are you doing this because you feel sorry for this person?
Have you been together so long it is the next logical step (even if you have doubts)?
Do you not want to hurt this person?
Do you know they are wrong, but feel too guilty to leave?
Do you think marriage will fix problems in your relationship?
Do you want to marry because you fear they will stray?
Have they threatened harm if you leave them?
Is there a pregnancy and you feel marriage must happen?
Do you think marriage will give you the life you wish you had?
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